Nayi funso zomwe zapezeka m'bokosi langa la makalata posachedwapa. Ndi vuto lofala m'magulu ambiri owerengera mabuku—The Dominator.
Kodi mumatani ngati membala amene nthawi zambiri amalankhula kwambiri pa nkhani ya mabuku? Tili ndi munthu amene amalankhula kwambiri. Choyipa kwambiri n'chakuti nthawi zonse amakhala womasuka kusokoneza ena.
Izi ndi kutali kwambiri Vuto lalikulu kwambiri lomwe likukhudzana ndi kalabu iliyonse yopezera mabuku...ndipo lomwe silingathe kuthetsedwa mosavuta. Komabe, nazi njira zingapo zoyesera:
1. Gwiritsani ntchito chizindikiro chapadera. Dutsani chinthu—nthambi, mwala wojambulidwa, kapena pilo yaying'ono, mwachitsanzo—kuzungulira chipindacho. Munthu yekha amene ali ndi chizindikiro ndi amene angalankhule. Amene sali ndi chizindikiro sangasokoneze. Mukhoza kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa nthawi zomwe munthu angathe kugwira chizindikirocho. (Ine sindimakonda njira ya chizindikiro, koma magulu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito amati imagwira ntchito.)
2. Chepetsani nthawi yopereka ndemanga. Gwiritsani ntchito chowerengera nthawi kuti muchepetse ndemanga. Palibe amene ayenera kulankhula mphindi zoposa ziwiri (2) kwa oyamba—ndipo mosakayikira osapitirira mphindi imodzi (1) kuti apereke ndemanga pa malingaliro a wina. Cholinga cha aliyense ndikuphunzira kulankhula mwachidule kuti aliyense akhale ndi nthawi yoti apereke maganizo ake.
3. Yang'anirani zokambiranazo. Mtsogoleri akhoza kusokoneza ndi ndemanga monga, “Zabwino kwambiri, Bill. Zikomo. Koma tiyeni tipatse ena mwayi” kapena “Kodi tingamve kuchokera kwa wina?” kapena “Inu ena mukuganiza bwanji” kapena “Mary, simunanene chilichonse.” Zimatengera mtsogoleri wokangalika, waluso, kuti asunthire zokambirana kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwa wina, popanda kulola munthu m'modzi kulamulira. Sizophweka.
4. Zonse zikalephera ... khalani mwachindunji.
• Yambani kukambirana maso ndi maso, kaya pamaso ndi maso kapena pafoni—osati, osati pa imelo kapena pa meseji. Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha munthu amene ali ndi luso la ndale.
• Zoti munene? Mutsimikizireni munthuyo kuti ndi membala wofunika kwambiri mu gululo, koma ena amaona kuti maganizo awo sangamvekedwe...kapena kuti ngakhale gululo likuyamikira malingaliro a munthuyo, pali chizolowezi chochita zinthu mopitirira muyeso. Mupempheni kuti apatse ena mwayi...kapena kuti asalowererepo mobwerezabwereza...kapena kuchepetsa kutalika kwa ndemanga zake.
• Choyipa kwambiri ndi kupempha membala wolakwayo kuti achoke m'gululo. Izi n'zopweteka, koma chifukwa cha gulu lonse zingakhale zofunikira. Ngati vutolo silinathetsedwe, mamembala angayambe kusiya sukulu ndikupeza magulu ena. Perekani lingaliro—mwachifundo—loti membalayo apitirire.
Kodi vuto lili m'kalabu yanu? Kodi pali malingaliro aliwonse?