Nayi funso zomwe zapezeka m'bokosi langa la makalata posachedwapa. Ndi vuto lofala m'magulu ambiri owerengera mabuku—The Dominator.
Kodi mumatani ngati membala amene nthawi zambiri amalankhula kwambiri pa nkhani ya mabuku? Tili ndi munthu amene amalankhula kwambiri. Choyipa kwambiri n'chakuti nthawi zonse amakhala womasuka kusokoneza ena.
Ili ndiye vuto lalikulu kwambiri lomwe likuvutitsa kalabu iliyonse yopezera mabuku ... ndipo palibe yankho losavuta. Komabe, nazi njira zingapo zoyesera:
1. Gwiritsani ntchito chizindikiro chapadera . Perekani chinthu—nthambi, mwala wojambulidwa, kapena pilo yaying'ono, mwachitsanzo—kuzungulira chipindacho. Munthu yekha amene ali ndi chizindikirocho ndi amene angalankhule. Amene sali ndi chizindikirocho sangasokoneze. Mukhoza kuchepetsa nthawi zomwe munthu angathe kugwira chizindikirocho. (Ine sindimakonda njira ya chizindikiro, koma magulu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito amati imagwira ntchito.)
2. Chepetsani nthawi yopereka ndemanga. Gwiritsani ntchito chowerengera nthawi kuti muchepetse ndemanga. Palibe amene ayenera kulankhula mphindi zoposa ziwiri (2) kwa oyamba—ndipo mosakayikira osapitirira mphindi imodzi (1) kuti apereke ndemanga pa malingaliro a wina. Cholinga cha aliyense ndikuphunzira kulankhula mwachidule kuti aliyense akhale ndi nthawi yoti apereke maganizo ake.
3. Yang'anirani zokambiranazo. Mtsogoleri akhoza kulowererapo ndi ndemanga monga, “Zabwino kwambiri, Bill. Zikomo. Koma tiyeni tipatse ena mwayi” kapena “Kodi tingamve kuchokera kwa wina?” kapena “Inu ena mukuganiza bwanji” kapena “Mary, simunanene chilichonse.” Zimatengera mtsogoleri wokangalika, waluso, kuti asunthe zokambiranazo kuchokera kwa munthu wina kupita kwa wina, popanda kulola munthu m'modzi kulamulira. Sizophweka.
4. Zonse zikalephera ... khalani olunjika.
• Yambani kukambirana maso ndi maso, kaya pamaso ndi maso kapena pafoni—osati, osati pa imelo kapena pa meseji. Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha munthu amene ali ndi luso la ndale.
• Zoti munene? Mutsimikizireni munthuyo kuti ndi membala wofunika kwambiri mu gululo, koma ena amaona kuti maganizo awo sangamvekedwe...kapena kuti ngakhale gululo likuyamikira malingaliro a munthuyo, pali chizolowezi chochita zinthu mopitirira muyeso. Mupempheni kuti apatse ena mwayi...kapena kuti asalowererepo mobwerezabwereza...kapena kuchepetsa kutalika kwa ndemanga zake.
• Choyipa kwambiri ndi kupempha membala wolakwayo kuti achoke m'gululo. Izi n'zopweteka, koma chifukwa cha gulu lonse zingakhale zofunikira. Ngati vutolo silinathetsedwe, mamembala angayambe kusiya sukulu ndikupeza magulu ena. Perekani lingaliro—mwachifundo—loti membalayo apitirire.
Kodi vuto lili m'kalabu yanu? Kodi pali malingaliro aliwonse?